Can't belive I'm back here again…

[MrsWB]

Oh yes, how can I forget to say “thank you!!!” For all the support and love! *hugs* to you all!

[Pingpong]

we all appreciate everything MrsWB! please enjoy yourself 🙂 mom deserves a vacation! haha.

[ironblood]

AH that sucks MrsWB. Hope you are ok and are feeling better and you do deserve a wrest. If you ever need to talk we are all here. Thank you again for everything.

As for me I’m just being casual with my ex. I almost feel too casual? Is that even a thing ? I feel like we are havjng the same boring conversation over and over again… how was your day? Etc. She wasn’t enthusiastic yesterday like you guys saw. Lets see what she is like today. 🙂

[ironblood]

So i replied to her text when i got home and said “Had a really good day today had to work on a production the uni might publish. How has your day been?”

Do you think keeping like thisnis good? Or amci being boring by talking about the same thing all the time? And good advice for interesting conversation starters/topics? Thanks!

[ironblood]

Ok so I’ve been abit frustrated today but didn’t show it to her. At times I felt like whats the point in talking and like i didnt even want to talk to her cause she’s not showing much interest. I can show you the conversation we’re having and see what you guys think. Thanks.

Me:Had a really good day today had to work on a production the uni might publish. How has your day been?
Ex: Really what sort of production. It’s good thank you
Me: It’s a superhero concept we’re working on but with our own twist. Been working on it all day it’s been good then a group of us went for something to eat.
Ex: Oh that’s so cool ahhh I’m glad your enjoying it

At this point she didn’t carry the conversation and i was getting annoyed so i wanted to phone so we could talk as text just seems so boring so i hinted that and  just said…
 
Me: Are you busy?

 (Usually i say this before i call)

Ex: I’m still not ready to talk on the phone plus I feel really ill I think I’m coming down with something sorry I don’t mean to be horrible

Of course I was upset so i tried to make it look like i didnt want to call but was wondering why she wasn’t replying so good so i said..

Me: Ok
 I didnt mean to call i meant it seems like you’re busy or tired? Anyway hope you feel better
Ex: No sorry I’m not busy I can chat I was just chatting to brother at the time
I’ve been looking after a sick girl today and every time I move I feel really Nauseous and headache
Me: You need a hot water bottle and snoop

( we nicknamed her dog snoop … can you guess why lol)

Ex: Snoop only goes where chicken is
I have no chicken
Me: What was wrong with the girl? Have you caught soemthing off her or just physiological
Ex: She was just being sick all the time and I might have caught it cause I feel really sick
Me: Ah that’s shit you should probably sleep would  you rather speak tomorrow ?

I wanted to see if she wanted to talk cause she wasn’t extending the conversation

Ex: No it’s fine I can talk
Me: You think you’ll be ok for work?
Ex: I hope so can’t take a day off
Me: I’m sure if you feel sick you can’t come in after 24 hours?
Ex: It’s only if you’ve been physically sick or the shits

She wasn’t giving me anything to go off so i just said…

Me: You should be ok
Ex: Yeah hopefully

I didn’t reply to this as it seemed like she didnt want to talk but then she replied about 5mins later saying…

Ex: Snoop joined me
Ex: She’s left now
Ex: Scratches weren’t good enough
Me: Poor snoop its a good thing her breath will make you physically sick

(Her dog has extremely bad breath and we use to make fun of it so i tried to be funny…lol)
It’s weird she litteraly tells me she wants to talk but doesn’t show interest in conversation. Am i going about this the right way? Is our conversations too boring? Is she showing negative signs? Or is this good progress? She hasn’t replied to my last message and usually she’s either instant or within 5-10mins.  It’s been 25. Not sure if these conversations are good. I feel like I’m making all the effort at the moment. Am i?

I know i might seem like im overthinking just don’t want to mess things up if it is positive progress. Thanks.

[ironblood]

So she replies the longest she’s ever replied to me an hour and 20mins with

Ex: She’d make me vacate a building with her breath

So i replied
Me: I know try not to puke on any kids tomorrow let me know how you got on
Me: Good night

Ex: I’ll try, will do thanks night night

I usually don’t reply to her for anything from 10-50 mins. Is this a bad? Not sure if this is positive signs from her or not to be honest.

[MrsWB]

Hey Ironblood: i will only be here for a quick second. Please just listen to me, you have made progress already. You’re communicating. You need to stop overthinking and appreciate that she is talking to you compared to all of us here. Be grateful for every little thing. When she told you she did not want to speak on the phone, you wanted to anyway because you were annoyed. That was disrespectful. There is no room for annoyance here. You’re broken up already. You wanted contact, you got it. Stop asking for more than she is not willing to give. It’s not healthy anymore. Remember: space, time, growth.

[ironblood]

Thank you for taking time out for this MrsWB appreciate it.

I’m just not dealing with this well as i feel when she replies now compared to the day we first talked she’s not putting as much effort and I’m scared this is just pushing her away. I know i shouldn’t over think I’m trying…lol.

I just can’t handle small talk between us. I feel like it’s going no where. Like the more we talk the less she’s interested.

[Pingpong]

hey ironblood, I can see where you are coming from. As it is hard to see improvements with these subtle talks but maybe this is what she wants and needs. To slowly rebuild what you guys had. again, try not to think so much in it lol as i know it is hard for you. Easier said than done since i am not in this position but i feel you. Best you can do now is just be there for her have small talks and when shes ready to open up, she will. Try not to ask her to talk on the phone or anything that may be too much for her to handle. I am sure she will reach out to you when she is ready (like the first time, she called you so fast!) so take it easy bro and dont get so overwhelmed. You two are making a lot more progress than any of us haha.

[ironblood]

Thanks Pingpong. I guess I can’t expect her to just come running back and be all talkative. She does show mix signals but I guess that’s just her or me over analysing as usual.

Yesterday I kind of left it to her with my last text

“I know try not to puke on any kids tomorrow let me know how you got on
Good night”

So at the moment it is up to her to reply. I did this so she could also put the effort in so I don’t feel like the only one. Now I just wait if she replies or texts me today. So as of now I’m going back to nc unless she texts me as i feel like I’m suddenly the one starting and ending conversations.

I hope this is the right thing to do :).

How has everyone been?

[Pingpong]

It seems like you did the right thing, leaving it to a way that she must answer. If she replies , than she does if not so be it but yes I think so NC until she messages you back is a good idea.

I’m doing decent today. Not as great as yesturdsy but way better than the other weeks. I was feeling curious and checked my ex’s Twitter. As I am still following her on it and she is also following me (but I never use Twitter or ever post ANYTHING. I made an account cause it was just a fad) but anyways she still has our photos on her Twitter profile. I know she uses it to check for traffic and stuff and check up on TMZ for celebrity scandals and stuff. Unless she stopped using it suddenly but I don’t think so. She doesn’t post anything on Twitter but just follows ppl and reads thing. It gave me hope still but Isunno what to think of it. Any insight on this? Well back to work for me!

[ironblood]

….weird. she just messaged me a simple “how was uni” as I’m just about to complain about how she hasn’t replied but she has been home for 3+hours. It’s so freeking weird how everytime i come here to vent about her not speaking or replying or just acting weird she does something. This can’t be a coincidence lol? This has happened so many times if you read my posts! …Also, it seems my ex has shortened her texts dramatically … any idea why?

Not sure about the profile picture pingpong. It could be a positive sign that she hasn’t moved on or it could be she just hasn’t bothered to change it. However as i said my ex has photos we took when we were out (not of us but the locations that we first hung out that clearly mark a special time when we were together) So I’m not sure.

How long have you been nc? Also what do you work as?

[ironblood]

Heys guys! So i didn’t reply to her message as i was talking to my family and got carried away and lost track of time. Anyway after about an hour she rang and i had a missed call off her. I saw it then replied “did you call?” Followed by a phone call. The message hasn’t delivered and she also didn’t pick up the phone. Not sure what’s going on but thought I’d update it here.

[Pingpong]

Hmm no idea why she shortened her text’s maybe she’s not feeling it so much today? As you did say she was feeling sick so when we are sick, we aren’t in the greatest mood. Give it a few days when she gets better, perhaps her mood will change then.

As for my situation, you might be right maybe she just hasn’t gotten to change her profile. As I don’t want get get my hopes up. I am feeing better tho, like I am ready to give her my letter but it hasn’t been even 1 week yet lmao. Only 6 days of NC so far. I told myself give it a month. Hopefully she will contact me before I contact her. That would be nice, but no hopes on it.

I majored biochemistry in uni before but got bored of books and so am a carpenter (something I really enjoy) and I flip properties.

[ironblood]

Only 6 days? Dude! You have alot of hope believe me in that case she will most likely contact you in the next week or two if not tomorrow! You have alot of hope since this was your first break up right? Dude! I’m happy for you because her twitter may also be a sign of a positive sign. Try not to focus on when to give the letter, it’s good to have handy but you may want to change it as the coming days/weeks pass by and you rethink things. If she hasn’t contacted you by 21 days then sure send it but I think she probably will. I would save the letter for as late as possible so it can make more of an impact as she would miss you alot.

As for me and my ex tonight has been weird. I ignored her text to reply later but i also missed a call by accident. By the time i replied im assuming she’s asleep so i missed a good chance to talk :(.

This is how the conversation has come out today.

Ex: How was uni 7:40pm

Missed call from ex 8:23pm

Me: Did you phone? 9:06pm

I then attempted to call her at
9:07pm and 9:30pm

Me: Uni was good hope work was ok, didn’t see your messages if you’re a sleep we can talk tomorrow night 9:46pm.

I regret taking my time to reply as i should have known she goes to sleep early. I really feel bad as i want to talk to her and dont want to make her feel as if i dont care :(. Have i fucked up by missing the chance to talk? Or is it ok? I really miss her. Is this driving her away? Ah this sucks. It’s currently 9:55pm and no signs of her even being online. I feel like I’ve fucked up. I truly want to progress but i feel like I’m messing it up.

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