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@caz15 balls. I sent the f**king smiley. Ah well. It’s a long time since. Not sure if full nc is the way to go. But I sure won’t be texting first anyway. That was a slip.
I need your advice. What’s the point of full nc anyway? Surely if she wants a bit of contact then minimum and cut it there. Acting like a tool won’t help things? If she thinks I am an ignorant ass then that might stick in her head? No? Yes?We’ve all made the mistake of texting so don’t worry!
The point of NC is so you don’t act needy or desperate and she will constantly know that you want her back, it’s for you to heal, it you keep in contact you won’t move on, I know that you don’t but you need to get back to the person she loves.
She won’t think your being ignorant because you have kindly asked her for space which she ignored.
I’ve read elsewhere that you should read the situation yourself. As I know her, she can get stubborn. I probably wouldn’t have heard anything again. I don’t know. I’ll keep going. She messed my head today a bit. No biggy I suppose. She gets the message. I won’t be there anymore at the end of the phone
Everyone’s relationship is different, of course you know her better than anyone.
That’s why the NC is also a god thing because they cannot mess with our heads.
Would that count as start again or a finish to the earlier messages from her? I feel bad. I shouldn’t have done that. Lesson learned. But I’m not really enjoying this. I hope she starts missing me. Do you reckon she has from her earlier messages especially the inside joke one. I read that as her reaching out big time. As in I miss your silly things
We have all done it so don’t put yourself down, NC is difficult but it does get easier.
She is already missing you by texting you, so you have been on her mind, she thinks by sending the inside joke you would respond to her.
You did respond and now she has the power again, start reclaiming it back day by day! You need the space or you will go crazy if you stay in touch
True. She has the power again. That was a clever move. She is not stupid that’s for sure. Next time no response. So I must start again?
I’m afraid you have to start all over again, if she texts again dont respond! I know it’s easier said than done but she has to come to the conclusion she wants you back.
Once she knows that your always there it will make it easier for her to keep doing what she’s doing!
Balls. Ok. Until the end of February then so. This will be the lesson learned hopefully. That’s a long way away. What if this doesn’t work? What if she forgets about me? What if she begs to meet up in the meantime?
End of feb and then you will have a clear head of what your next move should be, it will be a hard lesson learned but worth it.
How can she forget about you? Have you forgotten about her! if a song comes on she will think of you or when she sees your name on a bill.
If she begs you tell her no, keep the conversation to 10-15 minutes, be positive upbeat and don’t talk about the relationship.
So if she begs via text? Shit I was doing well. One little slip. And 8 days lost. So stupid. And to think that I had won so well earlier. Don’t let me do that again
Exactly if gives them time to miss you not have you as a back up!
It’s all about time, slow and steady wins the race.
It could possibly take longer but after the 30 days if you feel ready to have her in your life without feeling rejected or hurt, send a letter or an email.
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