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January 28, 2015 at 6:57 am #27108
Don’t ignore send her a response but tell her you do not want to meet. Tell her you need time and space.
Again straight back into NC
January 28, 2015 at 6:59 am #27109It will be horribly confusing for you.
It’s definitely a rebound! She wouldn’t be in touch if she was serious with him.
January 28, 2015 at 7:06 am #27110OK thanks. I will ask her to leave the post in a shop Close by and I can get it this evening. Followed by your “i Need some space at the Moment. I’ll be in touch when I’m ready”.
What do you think?January 28, 2015 at 7:14 am #27111That’s perfect! it will really make her think 🙂
January 28, 2015 at 7:21 am #27112but then she will not reach out again?
she will feel hurt.Another 3 weeks is such a Long time
January 28, 2015 at 7:31 am #27113Was it fair on you when she broke your heart and hurt you?
You need this time to focus mainly on you and what your needs are.
She will text again, you thought she never would and shes text 3 times in 24 hours.
January 28, 2015 at 7:39 am #27116I never thought never. I knew she would text. But she has to learn that i am not going to be around I guess. I will send that message then so. Give myself breathing space. Maybe leave out the bit about i will be in touch. That leaves it open to her too? See how Long she can go without texting. Because if she texts again then she was thinking about me. If i said that i will be in touch then maybe she wants to talk but feels blocked
January 28, 2015 at 7:45 am #27117You need to come unavailable to her, you need the breathing space to start healing, keeping in touch just prolongs this.
If you don’t want to put that in don’t! Go with what your heart is telling you.
She will be back in touch just give her time to come to the conclusion it’s you she wants
January 28, 2015 at 7:47 am #27118OK. Thank you. I’ll just go with i Need some space. That will do. She will get the message.
January 28, 2015 at 7:52 am #27121She will.
January 28, 2015 at 8:11 am #27128Caz help.
I text to leave the post in the shop. I can pick it up this evening. Then, I Need some space at the Minute.
She replied (immediately) that she doesnt have time today with labs etc.
Followed by; what’s wrong with you.
Followed by; I think you misunderstood a few things
Followed by; Okay fine (my Name). I’ll leave your stuff outside then.
I am really worried now. Misunderstood a few things? That I ever had a Chance? I really think that maybe this was all over in her head a Long time ago.
I think that this is the endJanuary 28, 2015 at 8:20 am #27129Don’t panic, she’s just not used to you being this way.
You are doing all the right things, she hasn’t respected your wishes for time and space.
She is reacting angrily because you are starting to get the power back.
Leave it now, go and pick up your stuff when she is out.
It’s not over if it was she wouldn’t have got in contact
January 28, 2015 at 8:23 am #27130I can’t pick it up without the key. Anyway, the ‘stuff’ is a few letters. That’s all. Why is she so angry? what did i misunderstand? I think she means that i misunderstood the seriousness of her decision.
January 28, 2015 at 8:25 am #27131You really think it is not over? She sounds fairly angry to me
January 28, 2015 at 8:31 am #27132She’s angry because your not reponding to her and ignoring her and being quite calm, this will all pass in a couple of more weeks.
I’m not sure what she meant by that, but don’t let it drive you mad thinking what it could be.
You still have a chance, you cannot just switch off feelings like you both had.
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