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October 8, 2014 at 9:39 am #10393
@Max thanks for your honest reply. I totally get it. But I think there’s a problem. We never even said goodbyes properly. He is giving me mixed reactions.
I feel like there is a communication gap between us. Infact I dont even know what he wants now. Why isn’t he talking to me. I literally dont know anything.
I feel like I should talk to him once if he tries to contact me and try to find out what he wants.October 8, 2014 at 10:29 am #10395I’m still fairly Young (21) and I’m a little immature so this may be the wrong advice but I think it’s obvious yous want to be together so I would be jumping at the chance. I would suggest talking to him and not continuing NC but I can’t even help myself so don’t take my word xx
October 8, 2014 at 11:41 am #10402@darkheart I am just 19.lol. π
I dont know what to do. I want to talk to him but dont want to break NC. I want him to try more. I am confused. I think I ll wait to see his next moveOctober 8, 2014 at 5:41 pm #10458I really don’t want to give the wrong advice but if he is getting angry at you not replying then I think it’s time to break NC because eventually he will give up trying…I mean wouldn’t you?x
October 8, 2014 at 9:02 pm #10503Hey guys… guess what?
I HAVE HIM BACK <3
Its not like everything just got like it was used to. There are still some problems that I need to fix. Like I need to make him promise that he ll never do something like that again. But what really matters is that we are together again.
We didn’t sleep last night at all.
I was just so depressed that I end up calling him. He was drunk and not well at all. I got worried so talked to him more.
I hope everything else will get better. He will become a nice trustworthy person again. And yes I ll still keep you all updated and yes, thanks for being with me. πOctober 8, 2014 at 9:08 pm #10505WOW congratulations!!!
he can keep trying to contact u because he never stops loving u.
Lucky girl !
Keep us updated !XOctober 8, 2014 at 9:49 pm #10513omg im so happy for you. π im glad you were able to get him back. now just work slowly but surely on the problems you guys have. π and Vanessa9 is right, lucky girl. π
October 8, 2014 at 10:09 pm #10518divjun would you like to share your story with us on how you got him back? im so happy for you. π
October 9, 2014 at 2:39 am #10550Yes please share you story π I am so happy for you the rest of us now have hope too π *fingers crossed*
October 9, 2014 at 8:19 am #10587Thanks all π
So here it goes.
My bf and I broke up 40 days ago. He was lying to me and hiding things.Little recap :
Prior to our break up, we were having continuous fights for 3 months. Everytime he used to chase me. I thought this time he ll realise his mistake and come back to me. But he didnt. I started NC on the of breaking up. He didn’t tell anyone about our break up. He didnt talk about me. He got angry when anyone was talking to him about me. He waa damn frustrated due to our fights. He asked about me to my friend on day 18 of NC.
He tried many times to contact me and yes we did talk on our 3 year anniversary and that was day 26 of NC.
We told each other that we love them. We again fought on the same day because he was not even feeling guilty about it. I started second round of NC.
He texted me once on day 9 but I didnt reply. I was missing him so much that I replied to his text the other night. He didn’t responded so I called him. He picked my call but he was not well. He couldn’t even speak properly. He was drunk. He told me he ll call me after sometime. I got worried for him. Then my friend called me who is also in contact with my bf. She told me that I should talk to him as he is not feeling well at all amd only I can handle him now.
I called him again. He didnt pick.
He told my friend that he is scared of me as I will scold him for getting drunk that much. He told her I only have feeling for one person(thats me) and she is so mean to me. Etc etc. He told her he is a bastard but has feelings for me only.
I talked to him on an app. He told me that only 6%battery is left in his phone. He showed me a screenshot so that I wont doubt him. I saw he saved my number by “WIFEY”
I didnt say anything about it. I asked him if he was feeling okay now.
He told me that he had high fever from past 3-4 days and thats why he wanted to talk to me because he feels much better when I am with him.
We fought again on old topics. He was least interested in talking about them.
Long story short. I asked him if he would repeat that in future.
He said I ll try not to but I cant promise. But I promise whatever happens we will stay together.
Firstly I was shocked that he is not promising me but then I realised atleast he is not making a fake promise.So I agreed and we got back together. We both didn’t sleep last night and talked for 7 hours.
I am planning to be as sweet as possible so that we dont get into any fights and after a week or so I ll talk about what happened between us and I ll make sure he wont do that again.
I hope it works. πOctober 9, 2014 at 9:12 am #10599yes remain strong and calm. if when you do talk about your relationship you start arguing, calm down and then continue afterwords. your doing really great. at least you got him back thats the good part. π now you know what you have to do to keep him. good luck and keep us posted. π
October 9, 2014 at 9:17 am #10600Yes aamls..earlier we used to fight when he talked to other girls. I was so immature I realise it now. I ll keep it cool. Firstly I ll try to make him and myself comfortable all over again with eachother. I ll try to spend some quality time with him. I want him to share everything with me without being scared of my reaction.
I think this will lower the chances of him lying to me and hiding stuff..right?
If you have any other idea I would love to hear.:)October 9, 2014 at 9:28 am #10603yes sounds good, since you just got back together I think as happy as you are in order to not push him away again still give him space and dont gang up on him much until your closer and it feels safe. hope this makes sense. other then that keep up the great job. π your doing great and should feel very proud of yourself. π I wish I was as lucky, lol π good luck and keep us posted. π
October 9, 2014 at 9:35 am #10604Thanks aamls. I totally get it. I wont say anything whatever he does right now. I mquite sure it will get better with time.:)
Your doing great too. Just dont lose hope.October 9, 2014 at 9:38 am #10607no problem, π glad I can help. π and yes take it really slow. π thanks but im not feeling it. lol π
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