Break Up

[shelden21]

But like honestly everyone thinks that we will get back together besides me! I think she really left me

[Alerie]

“She told me that she wanted to hangout with her friend but she knew I didn’t like her friend so she didn’t want to and she said I always kept her inside and never wanted to do anything!”
That’s how girls really are, silly. We change moods easily.

She said she wants you to tell her about your life and girls and stuff, but I think all this is just a front.
She misses you, you said?
And you don’t understand why she still won’t go back to you.
I think she’s not yet ready or it’s just her pride talking, you know?

[shelden21]

I can understand that but why wouldnt she go out and have fun with her friends but now she is always with her friends? Yeah she said she misses me and cries about me but she also said she loves me as a friend. I don’t understand her! She is so confusing and I just want to talk to her to see where she’s coming from and get in her mind but I cant!

[Alerie]

Now she is always with her friends?
They distract her. When she’s with them, she forgets about the pain and her problems. That’s why she’s always with her friends right now.

[Vasjhir]

We are kind of in the same boat, my girlfriend also left me but the break-up was weird aswell we kissed and hugged the entire day and she wanted to spend 6-7 hours with me before she left. We have about the same problem i gues, she told me she still loved me alot but didnt like like me anymore and she was unhappy, she tried the ignore the feeling but it was breaking her up inside.

There could be multiple reasons why she still stayed, she still has mixed feeling and she is fighting internally about the do love him/not love him, She finds it sad for you to leave you and a couple more things.

I honestly advice you to do the NC, im only at day 5 of the NC and she contacted my sister already and contacted me yesterday, which i ignored since it was just a how are you doing question. I dont know if the NC will work with getting her back, i do know the NC will work a bit so far to make yourself feel better.

We also have the same problems with the friends part, her friends disslike me (you didnt say it like that but you are saying they are giving her bad advice) but the be honest if her friends decide what she does it was wrong to start with.

Do the NC, heal yourself, go out with friends, start working out in the gym and maybe go out on a date. Be strong with the NC and do not respond and if she text you alot say you need some time and space for a while. If you were meant to come back together it will happen. Give her some time to delete the bad things that happened, and give yourself time to heal up. It will get better.

Since our stories are alike in my opinion you can read mine if you want, i do see the resemblence myself. And if you want, respond to it, i really like to see the opinion of other people about it.

Girlfriend of 5 years leaving me tomorrow, need advise!

I wish you the best is this hard time, you will come out a stronger person with or without her.

[shelden21]

Thanks it means a lot I’ll read your story and see if it’s like mine! I’m gonna start the NC and see where it goes from there! But then again I feel like I’m in my dads shoes in a way because he waited 10 years for my mom and my mom didn’t realize who was truly there for them and loved them until she was passing away

[shelden21]

@Alerie how will she ever think about me or us if she is always with her friends and having fun?

[Alerie]

She’s just like us, you know? At night, when it’s dark and she’s alone, that’s when everything comes crashing down on her.
That’s when she thinks about you and misses you the most.

[shelden21]

So why does she hold it back?

[Alerie]

I’m no expert, but I think she’s being a bit immature, letting pride get the best of her.
You need to let her see and realize what she’s missing first.

[Gingerone]

Can you guys pls read my post about the letter. I’m not ready to send it but would value your opinions.

As for the no contact period I thought it was best. She said she wanted some space so I’m giving her the space she wanted. I keep checking her facebook page for hints. Is this normal? Do you do it? Do u think she checks mine?

This is hard

[shelden21]

I always check her post and snapchats and everything. I think she is being immature also but I haven’t really said anything.

[Gingerone]

I see myself checking her instagram and facebook a few times a day. But I’m sure they do exactly the same.

[shelden21]

She keeps telling me to be with other girls

[Gingerone]

Hard to say about that one, she could either be testing you or she genuinely wants u to see other ppl. I think only you could tell which one. I’m sure if my ex did that it would be a test.

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