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  • January 1, 2017 at 1:57 pm #71808
    patricia12
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    PS: Delete him from social media!

    January 1, 2017 at 3:12 pm #71810
    ceecee123
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    You are right… I guess it’s hard because we’ve had so many great memories. I never felt the way I felt with him. He’s always clean when he’s with me so I felt as if we were good together. I’m not sure. I do want better for myself but just wished he would be better

    January 1, 2017 at 10:32 pm #71815
    patricia12
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    @ceecee123 – What good are great memories going to do you now? It’s a rhetorical question, but please know you can’t be happy with just memories. You can’t fix him and he’s gone back to drugs over and over. It will be a cycle for years to come and in the meantime you’re wasting time hoping and wishing he would get better. Please try to heal yourself and move on to a better life.I wish you well and pray for your strength and courage to face the reality of the situation!

    January 3, 2017 at 10:22 am #71844
    ceecee123
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    Thank you so much Patricia12, that made me realize a lot. You are 100% right, I will move on and find better. I deserve more than what I had. Is there anything I can help you on?:)

    January 4, 2017 at 9:49 pm #71901
    ceecee123
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    Think I’m truthfully getting over him. I noticed that he’s at my neighbors right now and I really didn’t care. Typically I would have texted him but after all this help from this website (Especially from you, Patricia12) for once in the past 5 years I’m finally getting over my ex. Realized I do deserve a lot better than what I had. Thank you again

    January 4, 2017 at 11:38 pm #71903
    patricia12
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    ceecee123 – You’re welcome and I’m so happy for you. Sometimes we have to force ourselves to do what’s best for us. Over time you’ll get stronger and be in a better place mentally. You will be happy again:) Take care of yourself..

    January 16, 2017 at 2:49 pm #72297
    ceecee123
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    Thank you so much. I am doing a lot better, I realized I am a lot happier on my own then in a relationship where I was insecure and always mad. Sometimes I am reminded of good moments that make me feel sad but I remind myself that it’s okay to be sad about it and over time I’ll be happy about them. His friend sent me a picture of the girl that my ex is “f*** buddies” with, according to his friends, and I did get extremely angered but I do think that if he truly loved me then he wouldn’t have moved on within a week regardless if the relationship was unhealthy or not. And I don’t think he would be so rude either. His birthday is the 19th, I was thinking of simply saying happy birthday just to be cordial but I’m not sure if I really want to.

    January 16, 2017 at 4:43 pm #72301
    patricia12
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    @ceecee123 – Everybody has some good memories of a past relationship, but the thing is that they don’t serve any purpose other than to make us sad. Best to stop yourself thinking of them as you move on with your life to get to a happier place. I’m very glad to hear your doing a lot better, but please don’t let things about him upset you. No, don’t say happy birthday. He doesn’t deserve your wishes!
    Focus on yourself and your own well-being. Wish you the best:)

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