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July 31, 2016 at 2:31 pm #65109
No, he’d only know if he tries to send one to you directly. I think it’s better to go a little dark– less posts makes people more curious about what you’re doing
July 31, 2016 at 2:42 pm #65111Yeah thats very true – Ok its done! All blocked. I will also try going a bit quiet. I have been putting up lots of pictures of me with friends, showing I am keeping busy and not moping e.t.c
July 31, 2016 at 3:38 pm #65115That’s good. Well done! Get rid of temptation completely. π
Ah I think it’s a good idea to stay quiet for a bit too. He’s already seen you having fun. Now he will see you go quiet and he’ll wonder who it is that’s taking up all your time! You’re so busy with something that you don’t have time to post at all!
It’ll make his head spin
July 31, 2016 at 4:31 pm #65117I am over thinking so hard after that single contact and want to break NC again…
August 1, 2016 at 1:53 am #65151I get you soupy but don’t do it! You’ve come so far.
This is going to sound super wierd, but when is the worst time of day for you and how do you all get through it? Mine is first thing in the morning-I wake up with a physical ache in my chest π
August 1, 2016 at 1:59 am #65152I’d say the worst time for me is in the morning also or really late at night. I really don’t know how I get through it, I just face the truth that we aren’t together anymore and maybe one day we could get back together again.
I think the morning is more bad than layer at night though. I know this will sound weird, but just yesterday I had this dream that my ex and I weren’t together at all and then we ran into each other and decided to get back together. When I woke up it all just felt so weird and to realize that none of it actually happened really hurts.
August 1, 2016 at 2:39 am #65155catherine8 I feel ya. I wake up and realise that Im not with him and its super upsetting π But Its almost a month since my ex broke up with me – time has gone so quickly! it scares me!
August 1, 2016 at 6:08 am #65157Id say mines is in the morning. Not getting a good morning from him sucks alot..it gets to the point where i wonder if hes sending them to someone else..it makes me sad :(..
August 1, 2016 at 6:37 am #65158Yeah I can understand that.
I mentioned in a post earlier about how my ex had something with a girl (who is now a mutual friend) before me, but it never amounted to anything because of his poor communication back then.
Turns out he’s been messaging her and speaking to her quite a bit apparently π feeling really crappy! Luckily he’s away for the next 2 months…but i feel so betrayed/nervous! π
August 1, 2016 at 6:39 am #65159It never amounted to anything for a reason. They’re probably just friends, I wouldn’t worry about it. His communication clearly hasn’t improved, so I doubt she would want to go there with him anyway. Especially so soon after a break up. No-one wants to be a rebound girl
August 1, 2016 at 7:31 am #65162Amy,
I really don’t think you need to worry about this girl. Lin is right, if things did not work out there was a reason. I think I already mentioned my ex did something similar. It really bothered me at the time but I think making an effort with a girl he didn’t like that much pushed him toward me. The space is a GOOD thing.
I ended up getting another text last night apologizing for the loss in contact and we spent about four hours going back and forth catching up. I was really glad I had taken the time to put myself in a better place and that he didn’t know everything Id been doing bc of social media. I can tell he really misses me, but trying not to get ahead of myself here. I hope this gives you some encouragement to keep going. You’re doing SO well but you need to have a little more confidence in the process, you’re going to be fine!
August 1, 2016 at 7:32 am #65163Yeah-that’s very true. Fingers crossed hey π I think what’s getting to me is for the first month of his work his offices are where she is :'( ahhhh :/ I am friends with her however too (I met her through him!)….and I’m going up there for a conference in a few weeks. Should I ask her if she wants to meet up for a coffee?
August 1, 2016 at 7:42 am #65165No. I think you should stop talking to any mutual friends while he is gone if you can. These touches of contact are all getting back to him and aren’t going to make you look great in his eyes. It’s hard but I promise you’ll be happier if you let go a bit
August 1, 2016 at 7:43 am #65166I wouldn’t – it’ll look like you’re checking up on him, because he will find out.
August 1, 2016 at 8:23 am #65171Sorry for butting into this thread but I think for me that their is no worst time of day, as that person is forever popping into your thoughts.
To me its that sense of nothingness as though somebody has just turned off a light switch. I find that its a weird sensation to get your head around!
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